31 May Day 151 | Use Your Words! Anything You Do Not Address, You Tolerate.
It is no secret that I have two little boys, a 2-year old (Austin) and a 1-year old (Aiden). At this age, not only do they have limited words that they can use to express their feelings, but oftentimes, they forget that these words are available for them to use at any given time. So rather than using their words, they whine, outright cry, or throw a tantrum to indicate that something is wrong. In the moment that these outbursts occur, I say to them (often, as a reminder), “Use Your Words.” “Mommy cannot fix something if she doesn’t know what’s wrong!” And if they cannot find the words to use at the time, I then say, “Point To It.” In other words, give me some sort of signal or indication of where the pain is. So, you know how this works by now. Let’s connect this to you. Many of you are feeling frustration, pain, or outright disdain for your current job. And the ironic part is, I bet you are the only one at your job who knows. Now, I’m sure a good boss has some sort of indication. I mean, you walk around the office lately in a mood, you snap at your co-workers, you’ve broken down in tears once or twice, and ultimately you are simply shutting down and becoming disengaged. Maybe it is time to remind you too. Use. Your. Words. Your manager cannot fix something if he or she does not know that something is wrong. And even if they know that “something” is wrong, they cannot fix something until they know what that “something” is. Save the whining, outright cries and tantrums and remind yourself that you can express your feelings. Take an opportunity to share with your manager what the problem is, how it is affecting your ability to perform (or be successful on the job), and provide an example if needed. Finally, and most importantly, share with your manager the outcome that you would need to see to know that the problem has been fixed, or to feel that you can perform/be successful. Yes, it is that simple. As I tend to tell my clients often, anything that you do not address, you merely tolerate. And life is too short to spend 40+ hours a week having to tolerate something negative. Trust me. You deserve so much more. You’ve been empowered to go and get it. Now, go and get it!
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